Push It Real Good

I'll have what ever Beyonce got

I bet Beyonce did’t have to put up with a mouldy bathroom

At around 8 months pregnant after returning from a glorious holiday in Italy, I screamed whilst bathing my 3 year old.  Not because I had seen a humongous spider or my favourite Kiehls Musk shower gel had been emptied into the bath by my 3 year old, nope it was the hideous bathroom I was facing.  You see we had just stayed in the most beautiful hotel in Italy with the most beautiful en suite bathroom and I was now home faced with mould, unspeakable lighting fixtures and generally a bathroom I could not longer live with.  My wonderful husband reluctantly gave it a new lease of life and his now 8 and a half month pregnant wife was once again happy.  He declared it my baby present or push present and I was extremely grateful for his DIY skills.  I could now bathe in a glorious haven and feel like Cleopatra, kind of.

(A month later post birth, my body looked unrecognisable and the last thing I wanted to do was lie in a bath and be faced with wobbly bits.  Showers were the only way forward and my push present didn’t seem quite so appropriate.  But my husband stuck to his guns and said that was my gift so stop moaning, gutted.)

A ‘push present or ‘push gift’ is a term that has developed from America, well let’s face it they love giving something a special name, y’all. The partner gives the present to the mother to mark the occasion of her giving birth to their child.  In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room.  But word on the labour ward is that a bunch of roses aint going cut the mustard and us pregnant ladies expect more for giving up alcohol for 9 months.  Here are some stories from fellow Mamas out there.

Rachel from Whenthebabysleeps says “My push present? Well, the day after I had my son I was brought a deliciously strong cappuccino from the hospital cafe ‘to hurry along the poo’ so we could go home. The coffee was delicious, and it worked. The *real* push present came a few days later when my husband handed me a voucher for a massage at a local salon. My response was something like this: “Nobody’s ever touching me ever again, but thanks anyway.”

Alice from MoreThanToast and MAMAUk tells me “When I had my last baby my husband bought me a beautiful tunic top from my friend’s boutique, popthefashionstore She kindly knocked a bit of the price down for him but because he was in such a rush to get to hospital to see me and the new baby he got a parking ticket for stopping on double yellows. So now my lovely push present is one of the most expensive tops I own!”

Gill from ABabyOnBoard had a more traditional present, “My husband really wanted me to have a post-baby birth present (and as he bought himself a new TV when we found out I was pregnant, claiming “it’s the last non-child thing I’ll be able to buy!” it seemed only fair that I had something for actually having the baby!) We both wanted it to be something that was meaningful and symbolic, so after lots of discussion he’s having a ring made for me with three diamonds scattered around the band, one for each member of our little family”.

Has anyone else got an push present story they want to share?  ‘I got a take away cous cous salad from the hospital canteen’ is one wonderful story I have heard, men really have no imagination when left to their own devices.

And with that I leave you with this, go push it, push it real good Mamas you deserve it.

7 thoughts on “Push It Real Good

  1. My husband bought me a rather nice Armani watch. Along with a big arrangement of flowers and helium balloon delivered to my hospital bed. I really wasn’t expecting anything and had completely forgotten all about push presents so it was a very lovely surprise.
    Now I’m wondering how he’s going to beat it for the next baby 😉
    Becky x

  2. I dropped endless hints after the birth of my first child, including setting up conversations in front of my husband where friends would show off their eternity rings given by their husbands or boyfriends as a push present. However to no avail and in fact my first husband rather firmly confirmed that he was not going to be coerced into any present buying that was not his idea in the first place. That would spoil the whole point according to him.
    Therefore after the second child arrived I remained tight lipped and silent, waiting for the subject to be raised. Sure enough, 2 days after giving birth he emotionally declared that no-one deserved an eternity ring more than me and he would get on the case immediately. Every day I waited patiently.
    9 months later no ring had appeared, no shopping trip to Hatton gdns had been organised and I was getting pretty pissed off. So I took matters into my own hands and on my own one day in a beautiful antique shop I tried on some gorgeous but inexpensive rings. My husband appeared half way through and immediately realised I was in the market for an eternity ring, right that second. Within 10 minutes, as we liked 3 extremely original and very pretty rings and could not choose which, we bought all 3!
    The moral of the story, men don’t need hints they need it spelling out IN VERY CLEAR ENGLISH, what exactly you would like, why you would like it, when you would like it by and what is the easiest way to buy it that causes the minimal stress to them. In fact actually forget all that, save yourself the trouble and just buy it yourself! x

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